I cannot believe its already April of 2011. Its gotten off to a good start for me – I have been writing but not on the blog.

Yesterday we were talking with G, who proclaimed that he did not like his hair. He wanted his hair to look like C and some other kids in his pre-school. I wondered what brought that on and realized that he has been playing with a little pocket mirro that his papa had given him.

Papa: G, go on ask the mirror a question.

G: Mirror, mirror on the wall who’s the fairest one of all…………….. SNOW WHITE!

Papa: If you ask the mirror who’s the cuddliest one of all, it’s going to say G!

G: Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who’s the cuddliest one of all?

G: with a grin on his face and looking at his papa….. ‘MAMA’!

Now on a roll:

G: Mirror, mirror on the wall, who has the roughest cheeks of all?? …..PAPA!!

We were all rolling with laughter at this point!


G’s letter to Santa:

 Dear Santa,
I have been nice. I have met N (G’s cool cousin). I have seen N’s boat.He even has snacks. I want to live on the boat too. I put all my legos under the christmas tree. I have a rubber ducky and I will give you a sticker. I made a duplo lego train too. I am going to sleep and wait for Santa. I found a coin and I have put it in here, put it in your pocket and take it to the north pole and show it to the elves. I have left cookies for the reindeer and carrots for santa because he likes vegetables.

Imagine you will completely lose your memory of 2010 in five minutes. Set an alarm for five minutes and capture the things you most want to remember about 2010.

  • This was the year of lego, inevitably. We started off with duplos at the beginning of the year but over a period of just a year our entire lego collection just exploded. Most were gifts from friends and family and a few additions on our own.
  • We began the year with G’s birthday party, he had some of his friend over and a very enjoyable day for him. A lot of work for us, including cleanup of the garage and the home and a lot of swearing that this was the last birthday party we would do at home, but as years go by will I remember that? I will remember my little boy sitting patiently waiting for his friends to arrive, excited about that, and his winnie-the-pooh cake.
  • Later we went on a hike to Sunol with some friends. It was great to be out, the grass was green, the sun was shining, the year was full of hope ahead. G was obsessed with firetrucks and spent his entire trip wearing his newly acquired fire helment.
  • We watched the first few movies in the theater at the start of the year, Avatar was one of the memorable ones.
  • This was the year that G got his bike, and we got to enjoy first time ever of G on a bike.
  • We went strawberry picking, G’s first time. It was also the first time that he enjoyed the beach. Until now, the sounds of the ocean made him turn away from the water. 
  • Summer was glorious, beatufiul streams, lakes, fishing (pretend), campfires, and marshmallows. G didn’t care for marshmallows and G wanted nothing to do with fire. (All that pretend fire-fighting had rubbed off)
  • Volcanic ash, rocks, and sulphorouss fumes. Gigantic campfires, talking late into the night, gazing at the stars.
  • This was the year spent with family and friends. This was the year of doing things local.(most of the time)

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What’s the one thing you have come to appreciate most in the past year? How do you express gratitude for it?

I’ve got to start this one off with a cute story. G was with V over the weekend building some legos in his room. G suddenly tells V – Papa, I apppshiate what u are building for me! He didn’t say the word very well, but you could tell that he was using it. Some other words he has used over the last month or so have been words like interesting. Conversations with him have been quite fun. A typical conversation goes like:

Me: G, why did you do X or Y or Z

G: I don’t know mama, that’s the way it is.

I certainly appreciate having G around this year, he has taught me more about patience, about control and about living to my values. He reminds me every day that my life is a practice, I need to work at it to get better. I appreciate that I have had the good fortune to have 2 sets of GPs around to enjoy G. We had a period this year when we were by ourselves, so I do appreciate that both GPs are in good health and spirits and able to come and spend time with us. I don’t know for how long this will continue and with the relentless march of time, I am constantly aware of this and thankful for what I have.

When it comes to aspirations, it’s not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen. What’s your next step?

I had to step back and realize that I have small ideas, but no overarching goal in mind.

My idea for this year is about regular practice in the areas of my life that I have decided need work. I need to get back in touch with my dreams and with that some more aspirations may come to the surface.

  • Identify urgent work as opposed to remarkable work (We don’t find it remarkable when our expectations are met, only when they are exceeded or when we are surprised by something completely unexpected)
  • Separate actionable items from routine tasks/calendar hits etc
  • Don’t put more items in the todo list than can be handled
  • Try to create closed todo lists
  • Reactive work as opposed to proactive work
  • Need to do some MAPS of my career (

This year, when did you feel the most integrated with your body? Did you have a moment where there wasn’t mind and body, but simply a cohesive YOU, alive and present?

Sadly for me, I don’t have many instances in my life when this has happened. Most of these have been during times of exercise, usually when I am doing something challenging because I have to focus on my breathing. Ever since the birth of G, I havent had much of an opportunity to challenge myself physically. Yoga, so far hasn’t quite done it for me, because it allows my mind to roam. The activitiy has to be engaging enough that I am aware of my body and my thoughts at the same time. Short hikes around town havent done it for me since while I may get a good workout, its rarely something so super challenging or super new that I am physically and mentally there. Well maybe its an excuse (I may have to think about why this is so). My mind while working out/exercising is constantly on chores or other things I need to get done for the day or the rest of the weekend. So these instances don’t happen locally, isnt that a shame?

So basically for this to happen I have to be

  1. Away from my home (somewhere exotic)
  2. Be challenged physically or doing something on the verge of my body comfort zone.

I am going to have to change that, obviously!
On to when this has happened, there have been numerous instances during my trips to colorado (when we climbed 14ers) when I was slightly out of my comfort zone, focussing on putting one foot in front of the other, and mainly focussing on breathing. I have never been as aware of my body as I have been during those times. There have also been numerous trips to the mountains when I have had to give it my 100%, when the surroundings and the breathtaking beauty and the difficult of accomplishing what I set out to do have put me completely in the moment of being aware of my body, but the one moment that I will never forget is when we were hiking the annapurna circuit in the himalayas, we were in the kali gandhaki valley which is very know for its high gusting winds. This fact is so very well known that planes don’t land or take off in the valley after a certain time in the morning. (the winds start around 1pm). We had had our lunch and we were walking down and the wind that gushed towards us knocked my breath away. It was a flat walk, so no physical exertion there, but I just had to breathe and breathe through the wind that was making my eyes tear up, and pushing up against my whole body. Never did I feel alive as I did in that moment.
So how do I recreate this experience? Writing all this has made me realize that I do want to recreate these experiences somehow.
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What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life? (Author: Sam Davidson)

  • Taking things personally – I realized this year that I have the uncanny ability to make issues that other people have to be issues about me and I am finally determined to do something about it. Take a deep breath and let it go. I plan to refocus myself this year on stuff that is important to me, something I will remember all the time and hopefully doing that will make me less likely to make everything about me.
  • Anger – I want to begin on this in a small way, something specific because perhaps this is a pretty challenging goal to have, for me. A lot of anger for me, comes from taking things personally so getting rid of that will also help. Also, I will try to have a vision in my head about what sort of a role model to G I am being by indulging in that behavior. When I feel that I am getting angry, I will take a deliberate cool-off (vision G) and not talk until I am able to take 5 breaths. I will rinse and repeat 5 times, especially if I feel like I want to speak up.
  • Negativity – Especially when things are not perfect, I will accept and try again the next time and try not to chastize myself and anybody else for not getting it. I will remember G’s yoga teacher (do my best and leave the rest). I want to role model this to G since I don’t want him to be afraid of failing either. I want to treat myself well when I fail.
  • Expectations of others – I find myself often falling down the rabbit hole of pity because I wish my life was more like some other person X. I will disconnect from facebook since this sends me into the hole more often. Twitter/blogs ok because it is more of sharing of ideas/experiences.
  • Not doing something because I have been putting it off so long, that it becomes bigger and bigger and bigger. Do a small amount every day on areas in which I feel I need to make progress. Set a timer for 10 mins and just do it for that long.


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